Internet dating at times is too complicated for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via these, many singles still find it an almost impossible task to locate their loved ones, develop and maintain a satisfying intimate relationship.
Time and again I find singles who, without even knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in romantic relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they don’t know what they need to change to be able to succeed next time around.
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become concious of a host of factors of which drive you to fail in the relationships. Could it be your perceptions towards the other sex? Could these be your doubts and needs which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these come to be messages you internalized at a young age about how romantic relationships “should” look like – email which now, as an adult, come back to haunt you?
It is as you ask yourself these – and various – questions; when you look inwards and observe yourself; and when you develop the Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors get exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think profession approach partners and family relationships.
May these be unrealistic targets and fantasies about companions and relationships which travel you to expect the out of the question (and blame your companions time and again)? May this be your conception of reality, being won over that “your way” from thinking, feeling and accomplishing things is always “the proper way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
Self-Awareness might be the only road you haven’t taken so far in your attempts to find a spouse with whom to develop a booming intimacy. Paradoxically enough, this will be the only road which can take your there.
Because of this, it makes no main difference on how many dates each goes and how many relationships these attempt to develop: they get it wrong over and over again, for the simple reason that they just never take the time to understand what they do of which harms their attempts.
Taking task for your success or failing at relationships is a major to making a significant change leading to success. It is only if you take responsibility and be accepted as truly motivated to understand, once and for all, what hinders your tries that you embark on the road to make sure you success.
But is it seriously so? Is it really a general shortage of time that inhibits them from finding the right person? Or could it be that even when they meet a potential partner many singles just do not know how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be that they’re unaware of the many ways in which they will sabotage their attempts for intimacy?
It is as if meeting “the proper person” stays only your dream. Many singles resort to hiring personal motorcoaches, advisors or dating authorities with the task of corresponding them with the “right” man, convincing themselves that they are merely too busy to look, search and find.
These therefore resort to finding a single and thousand excuses to make sure you justify their failures, in no way the least is: shortage of energy. Resorting to dating services is one way to not take obligations for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my singular responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “